Getting Past the Past

Updated insider information by Chellie Campbell, author of “The Wealthy Spirit: Daily Affirmations for Financial Stress Reduction”

64 – March 5

“The hardest years in life are those between ten and seventy.”—Helen Hayes


Chuck was having a hard time. He was trying to do his positive affirmations, but the negative voices kept coming up. He was very conflicted about his past, the negative upbringing, the angst in his family. He had many unresolved issues with his parents and As a result, he kept talking on and on about his problems, rather than the solutions to them. You could tell from the look on his face and the energy with which he talked about his past that he relished the struggle. I’ve seen this problem many times, watching people take class after class, ostensibly to learn to overcome their problems and become successful, but, in actuality, to wallow in their difficulties and celebrate their inadequacies. They are victims and it’s never their fault.

(Continued on page 64 of The Wealthy Spirit)

Today’s Affirmation: “With a glad heart, I welcome the treasures of today!”


Write the story of your life.  Read it over again.  Is it a balanced viewpoint?  Or is it weighted towards the negative or the positive aspects of your life?

Now rewrite it—twice.

The first time, write it from a loser’s perspective and focus on all the bad breaks you ever had, the people who were mean to you, hurt or robbed or beat you, and all your financial losses.

When you write the second version, focus on winning.  Take pleasure in every good thing that ever happened to you—every win, every success, every raise, bonus, etc.  Look at all the people who helped you, nurtured you, and loved you.

They are both “The Story of Your Life.”  They are both true.  But which one do you focus on?  Which one shows up on your face?  In your body language?  In your relationships?  Which story do you think about before you go on a job interview?  Make a sales call?  Go on a date?  Which story of your life is showing up in all your current results—financially, professionally, and personally?

To illustrate, here are some of the things I include in “The Story of My Life”:

Version #1:  Lost election for cheerleader twice.  Battered wife.  Divorced.  Failed as an actress—never had a starring role on TV, movies or Broadway.  Left at altar three weeks before wedding.  Worked for years as a secretary for little money.  Lost major $300,000 a year client right after buying out partners from business.  Drowned in credit card debt.  Bought house at high price, high interest mortgage.  Couldn’t pay bills.  Couldn’t pay mortgage.  Filed bankruptcy.  Lost home to foreclosure.  Robbed at gunpoint.  Attacked in bedroom at 3:00 am.  Car broken into 3 times, stolen once.  Mother died, followed by uncle, aunt, cousin’s six-month-old baby, best friend—all within 9 months of each other. Abused alcohol.  Alone.  No children.

Don’t you just want to say, “Oh, poor thing”?  I feel depressed just writing all that.

Version #2:  Won election for Pep Club President.  Leading roles in school plays.  Won Outstanding Senior Speech Arts Award.  Graduated Magna Cum Laude from UC Santa Barbara.  Selected Outstanding Senior for Drama Department.  Worked often and had great fun in professional acting career—member of Screen Actors Guild, Actors Equity, and AFTRA.  Found new career in bookkeeping service, grew business from $80,000 annual sales to $450,000 annual sales in four years.  Made partner, then bought business.  Able to save business after bankruptcy.  Invented new business—Financial Stress Reduction® Workshops.  Elected President of LA Chapter of National Association of Women Business Owners, won Small Business Administration Women in Business Advocate award, Pacific Palisades Rotarian of the Year, Womens Referral Service Member of the Year, Women in Management Most Inspirational Speaker.  Got sober.  Make six-figure income.  Have fabulous friends and family. Enjoy every day—making money, having fun, and helping people.

Same life, different perspective.  Both versions are true.  But if I allow myself to think about the first version, with all the negative things, each day before I make a phone call or write an email or go to a meeting, I’m going to be depressed.  And that’s going to show.  Then, if I call you and you’re a positive person, you’re going to be put off by the negative undertone you feel from me.  However, if you’re a whiner and complainer, you’re going to be ever so attracted to me…see how it works?


Beware the stories you tell other people.  Telling them reinforces your belief about yourself, and creates your future from your past. Everyone has bad things happen to them. Everyone has good things happen to them. Winners focus on the good things and whiners focus on the bad things.

What are you going to focus on today?